You don’t have to go into every prenatal appointment with your defenses up, armed with information, prepared to argue your case with your provider.  There are providers who value their patients, mother and baby, and who are willing to fight FOR them and not against them.  They will not try to take advantage of your vulnerability during labor.  They will not try to scare you into decisions you don’t want to make.  They will not shame you for your choices.  These providers do exist!  We just have to look for them.